We’ve asked a few brides what they are most concerned about with their wedding, and one thing that kept coming up was how they were going to handle bringing a lot of family who do not get along well (as in, at all) into one room. And with the average guest list reaching well over 100, many brides are concerned about all the people they love not playing well with the rest.
One of the most obvious solutions is a destination wedding with just your immediate family and extremely close friends. However, this isn’t an option that many brides like. Only 24% of weddings are in destination locations according to The Knot, so 76% of you still want to get married close to home. Here are some of our ideas for making sure your wedding is drama-free.
One easy solution is checking and double checking your seating arrangement. You can singlehandedly make sure that your two aunts who haven’t spoken to each other in years (where each claims the other is in the wrong) are on opposite sides of the room for the majority of the event. If you’re worried about your cocktail hour or the dance floor, keep in mind that if two people really don’t want to be around each other but want to be there for you on your big day, they’ll more than likely do their best to avoid each other and not cause a scene.
If you’re very concerned that someone will lose their temper or is very confrontational, talk to each party yourself in the weeks leading up to the wedding. Voice your concerns, and tell them how important it is to you that everything go smoothly. Let them know that each person in the fighting party means something to you, and you want everyone to be there to watch you go through this important moment in your life without all of the drama.
You can also consider having a member of your family who isn’t involved in the feud play bouncer. If you know that no matter what, two people are just not going to be happy being near each other, you need someone who isn’t you to keep things civil. Have your sister or an aunt keep an eye on everyone during the reception. I’ve met a bride who plans to have her bridesmaids in charge of making sure a certain member of her family always has a drink in her hand or distract her so she has something to concentrate on at all times.
And if all else fails and someone throws cake at someone else’s head, just make sure the photographer gets it on camera. 😉 Just remember that this is YOUR day, not theirs. If you want everyone to be there for you on your wedding day, it is up to them to keep themselves in check. You should enjoy yourself, not worry!