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What We Forget When We are Busy Getting Married

There is a wonderful bond we all share, and one of those bonds is our erring..uh..forgetfulness? What was I saying? Yes, we forget, no matter the number of checklists or how professional we are, there will be an item now and again that falls by the wayside when we are busy with the business of getting married! Here is a short list for the bride to help tidy up any loose ends she might have.

Do you have a Day-Of-Point-Person?

This person is someone who can check in with all vendors and makes sure that they are doing what they are supposed to be doing or if they are having problems (like maybe the electrical outlets are not working where the band is playing).

Do you have someone who knows your family helping the photographer?

You know who the important people are in your family, but do you have someone that can hunt them down and get them in the photos for you photographer? You need someone to make sure all significant people are photographed well and that the co-worker you barely know isn’t in a bunch. Also, make sure the videographer is directed enough so that your precious memories are captured.

Did you budget for gratuity and someone to deliver it?

This is important because so many people think the bill is enough, but really the photographer and the band and the bartender are all going out of their way personally to do a great job for you, and it is important to tip them.

Did you count yourself and any vendors in your final numbers for the caterer?

When it comes to caterers, people think of everyone but themselves and those working  the wedding. Weddings are long events and vendors need breaks and meals. In many cases it is actually in the contracts, but it is easily overlooked when arranging the caterer.

Do you have a change of clothes?

Unless you want to change at a gas station or airport bathroom on the way to your honeymoon, you need to consider when and where you need a change of clothes and if someone can help with this. This is a great thing a sister can help out with or a good friend. It needs to be someone not in the wedding party or with other responsibilities or roles. And your wedding party may need helpers, too. This is when we need ladies in waiting. Most of us don’t live that sort of life, but a bride can’t huff her dress, her change of clothes and everything else. She needs some help.

Can someone drop the tuxedo and wedding dress at the dry cleaners?

Instead of crumpled up or hanging for days with a stain, these items would be best whisked to a good dry cleaner. Come back and have everything boxed and wrapped. Good deal done. One last thing to deal with once you get back.

Do you have a designated helper?

Something last minute will arise or there will be someone who gets lost on the way to the wedding or reception. Do you have anyone in your life that is willing to keep their cell on and help with anything that comes up? These are the manager types and teacher types. They are use to having to oversee sudden bought of chaos. It wouldn’t hurt to give them a burner phone if needed. Maybe that person and the Day-Of-Point-Person both need burner phones for the event.

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The author: Dawn Van Ness

Dawn Dickson Van Ness grew up at the beach and has published her work in print and online. With a BA in English and a MS in Mass Communications, she has used writing and multimedia to promote artists, art shows, writers, small businesses, and other self-employed individuals by building websites and maintaining social media pages. She feels most fulfilled when she is helping others achieve their dreams, which includes writing self-help and steps-to-success articles for various websites. It seems a natural fit for this wife and mother of two to write features that help soon-to-be wed couples. For more about Dawn, go to