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Pick the Perfect Date for Your Virginia Wedding

Pick the perfect date for your Virginia wedding by starting with this quick calendar guide.  Listed are three day weekends that might be a go and holidays and events that might make some dates a no.

Step 1: Black Out Personal Dates

Check your calendar for college reunions, family weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, and pregnancy due dates if you have them.  You can cross out dates with big, family vacations or events.  Some families have annual summer vacation plans or they are up to their necks in softball tournaments. In some cases, people have regular medical treatments like infusions for MS that have to be done on a schedule.  You can’t accommodate everyone, but you can take things into account that matter most.

Step 2:  Black Out Big Town and City Celebrations

You don’t want to compete with spring breakers or lost tourist traffic.  Look up  big conventions or festivals in your area (check out your local chamber of commerce and visitor center websites first).  Anything an area is using or potentially using to promote its town from arts and craft festivals to lake festivals to marathons can change traffic patterns or make parking lots inaccessible or unnecessarily tricky for out-of-town visitors.

Step Three:  Highlight Three Day Weekends

Why choose a holiday weekend?  People have a Monday off to travel and recover.  However, it might be a standard weekend for families to get together and make plans.  So if you are giving people a significant amount of notice, book it!  If you are only giving people a couple of months notice, don’t be surprised if families go to Kings Dominion or Great Wolf Lodge instead.  Here are some popular three day weekends!

Three Day Weekends 2017, 2018, 2019

Martin Luther King Jr. Day (always a Monday)

Weekend of January 14–16, 2017

Weekend of January 13–15, 2018

Weekend of January 19–21, 2019

Presidents’ Day (always a Monday)

Weekend of February 18–20, 2017

Weekend of February 17–19, 2018

Weekend of February 16–18, 2019

Memorial Day (always a Monday)

Weekend of May 27–29, 2017

Weekend of May 26–28, 2018

Weekend of May 25–27, 2019

Labor Day (always a Monday)

Weekend of September 2–4, 2017

Weekend of September 1–3, 2018

Weekend of August 31–September 2, 2019

Columbus Day (always a Monday)

Weekend of October 7–9, 2017

Weekend of October 6–8, 2018

Weekend of October 12–14, 2019

Step Four:  Black Out Special Holidays

If you still don’t have a date you are happy with among the three day weekends, here are dates to skip. Depending of how you feel some of these dates and their branding might not be a date you want to choose, either because you don’t want to share the date or because it is in conflict with your feelings for the date.

Mother’s Day (always a Sunday)

Weekend of May 13–14, 2017

Weekend of May 12–13, 2018

Weekend of May 11–12, 2019

Father’s Day (always a Sunday)

As you would with your moms, check with your dads about doubling up on this day. And grooms

Weekend of June 17–18, 2017

Weekend of June 16–17, 2018

Weekend of June 15–16, 2019

Independence Day

Tuesday, July 4, 2017

Wednesday, July 4, 2018

Thursday, July 4, 2019


Tuesday, October 31, 2017

Wednesday, October 31, 2018

Thursday, October 31, 2019

Thanksgiving (always a Thursday)

November 23, 2017

November 22, 2018

November 28, 2019

New Year’s Eve

Sunday, December 31, 2017

Monday, December 31, 2018

Tuesday, December 31, 2019

Step 5:  Skip Religious and Cultural Holidays

In some cases it may be because of when you can book a church, but in other cases it might be just inconsiderate or impossible.  Whatever you reasons are, here is a short list of dates of religious or cultural import to avoid.  It is by no means a definitive list and some are very obvious, but others might be a nice reminder that the whole calendar isn’t wide open if it isn’t Christmas or Easter.

Religious and Cultural Holidays

Palm Sunday

April 9, 2017

March 25, 2018

April 14, 2019

Easter Sunday

April 16, 2017

April 1, 2018

April 21, 2019

Passover (begins at sunset)

Monday, April 10, 2017

Friday, March 30, 2018

Friday, April 19, 2019

Tisha B’Av (begins at sunset)

Monday, July 31, 2017

Saturday, July 21, 2018

Saturday, August 10, 2019

Rosh Hashanah (begins at sunset)

Wednesday, September 20, 2017 until nightfall on Friday, September 22, 2017

Sunday, September 9, 2018 until nightfall on Tuesday, September 11, 2018

Sunday, September 29, 2019 until nightfall on Tuesday, October 1, 2019

Yom Kippur (begins at sunset)

Friday, September 29, 2017 until nightfall on Saturday, September 30, 2017

Tuesday, September 18, 2018 until nightfall on Wednesday, September 19, 2018

Tuesday, October 8, 2019 until nightfall on Wednesday, October 9, 2019

Hanukkah (begins at sunset)

Tuesday, December 12, 2017 until nightfall on Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Sunday, December 2, 2018 until nightfall on Monday, December 10, 2018

Sunday, December 22, 2019 until nightfall on Monday, December 30, 2019


Monday, December 25, 2017

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Wednesday, December 25, 2019

Step 6:  Remember Remembrance Days

There are dates that are not only historically significant, but also are heart and soul important dates like September 11, Patriot Day, and December 7, Pearl Harbor Day.  There may be other dates specific to your region that might feel inappropriate.  Being sensitive to that is respectful.  It is worth noting families also have personal remembrance days due to tragic accidents and events.

Step 7:  Forget Super Fan Dates

Whether your crew are football fanatics or basketball maniacs, if they have to spend time in a stadium or in front of a big screen, there are times that you just can’t compete with a favorite sport’s time.  It might be a case where your local sport team has had a crazy successful season for the first time in a decade.

Super Bowl Sunday

February 5, 2017, in Houston, TX

February 4, 2018, in Minneapolis, MN

February 3, 2019, in Atlanta, GA

Final Four During March Madness

Saturday, April 1, 2017 and Monday, April 3, 2017, in Glendale, AZ

Saturday, March 31, 2018 and Monday, April 2, 2018, in San Antonio, TX

Saturday, April 6, 2019 and Monday, April 8, 2019, in Minneapolis, MN

Step 8: Forget it Being Perfect Except Perfect for the Two of You

At some point, you just have to pick a date or decided smaller crowds are the best crowds for your Virginia wedding.  There isn’t a perfect date for everyone, so consider this is the date that you and your partner will be celebrating as an anniversary for the entire stretch of your relationship. Working with a wedding planner to set the date can simplify everything.

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The author: Dawn Van Ness

Dawn Dickson Van Ness grew up at the beach and has published her work in print and online. With a BA in English and a MS in Mass Communications, she has used writing and multimedia to promote artists, art shows, writers, small businesses, and other self-employed individuals by building websites and maintaining social media pages. She feels most fulfilled when she is helping others achieve their dreams, which includes writing self-help and steps-to-success articles for various websites. It seems a natural fit for this wife and mother of two to write features that help soon-to-be wed couples. For more about Dawn, go to